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Personal development
Social Skills
A complete guide to connecting, communicating and relating better
We were taught mathematics and history, but almost nobody taught us what decides the quality of our lives: how to relate to other people. A practical, evidence-based guide to the social and emotional skills that can be learned at any age: from self-confidence to conversation, empathy, influence and the art of building deep bonds.
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Contents
- Why nobody taught us how to relate to others
- The map: confidence, charisma and connection
- 1. How to build real self-confidence
- 2. How to improve your self-esteem
- 3. Self-assertiveness: being true to yourself
- 4. Your inner critic: quieting negative self-talk
- 5. Stop comparing yourself to others
- 6. Perfectionism: stop sabotaging yourself
- 7. Impostor syndrome
- 8. The fear of rejection
- 9. How to overcome shyness
- 10. Social phobia: what it is and how to overcome it
- 11. Instant confidence
- 12. The comfort zone: expanding it without destroying it
- 13. How to take initiative in your social life
- 14. Overcoming loneliness
- 15. Emotional intelligence: recognizing and managing your emotions
- 16. How to develop your emotional intelligence
- 17. The amygdala hijack
- 18. Emotional regulation: recovering your calm
- 19. How to manage anger without exploding
- 20. Frustration tolerance
- 21. How to express your feelings
- 22. The 3 keys to emotional communication
- 23. The emotion journal
- 24. Self-compassion: being kind to yourself
- 25. The power of empathy
- 26. Empathy exercises
- 27. Emotional validation
- 28. How to start conversations: genuine small talk
- 29. Conversations that don't fizzle out
- 30. From surface chat to connection
- 31. The art of truly listening
- 32. The power of questions
- 33. The three types of conversation
- 34. Clarity and concision: making yourself understood
- 35. Everyday storytelling
- 36. Humor in conversation
- 37. Barriers to communication
- 38. The conversation gym
- 39. The science of the first impression
- 40. Body language: reading and projecting
- 41. Breathing for speaking
- 42. How to modulate your voice
- 43. Diction and articulation
- 44. The power of intonation
- 45. Vocal hygiene: take care of your voice
- 46. Fear of public speaking
- 47. Speak like a TED talk
- 48. How to be liked: Dale Carnegie's principles
- 49. How to compliment and praise authentically
- 50. The power of appreciation
- 51. How to make people happy
- 52. What assertiveness is and how to be more assertive
- 53. How to apologize effectively
- 54. Criticize less to connect more
- 55. How to give constructive criticism
- 56. The art of empathetic persuasion
- 57. Reciprocity: the principle of influence
- 58. The words that most sell and convince
- 59. Reverse psychology: when and how to use it
- 60. How to detect lies
- 61. How to deal with difficult people
- 62. The 10 mistakes that ruin your social skills
- 63. The power of a name
- 64. How to make new friends
- 65. How to meet new people
- 66. How to be charismatic
- 67. Imitation and the chameleon effect
- 68. The power of vulnerability
- 69. The power of physical contact
- 70. Sharing what you hate strengthens bonds
- 71. Caring for your relationships: the time we have left
- 72. Happiness and relationships
- 73. You are the average of those around you
- 74. The science of attraction
- 75. Seducing yourself
- 76. The three-wires theory
- 77. The best questions for getting to know someone
- 78. How to win someone over
- 79. The art of making proposals (and negotiating the no)
- 80. Dissonances: what breaks attraction
- 81. Online seduction
- 82. Differences between men and women
- 83. Attachment styles: why you love the way you love
- 84. Love is an art you practice
- 85. Why desire fades (and how to revive it)
- 86. The Gottman method: what makes a relationship last
- A path, not a destination