Relationships and Attraction

Small gestures in every encounter to genuinely connect with others.

Give regular attention to the relationships that matter most to you.

Practice love as an activity you cultivate — care, presence and knowledge — rather than something that simply happens.

Feed the 'emotional savings account' of your relationships daily so they withstand the inevitable conflicts, following the Gottman method.

Take the first step yourself instead of waiting for others to take it.

Identify how you react to closeness and conflict in your relationships, and respond consciously instead of automatically.

Bring space, novelty and play back into the relationship to sustain desire alongside the security of love.