Tolerate not knowing

Self-Help · Intermediate

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Train the discomfort of uncertainty instead of resolving it with checking.

Micro-habits to get started

Small actions of a few minutes to start this habit:

Solvable or not?

Faced with a worry, decide whether an action is possible now. If not, there's nothing to think about.

Mixing the two categories is the central mistake.
3 min
One check fewer

If you check every ten minutes, make it twenty. Sit with the discomfort without checking.

The anxiety always subsides on its own, however hard that is to believe at first.
1 min
A fixed worry slot

Set aside twenty minutes a day and defer everything that shows up outside it.

Most postponed worries lose their force before their turn arrives.
20 min