Design for your tendency
Self-Help · Beginner
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Adapt your habits to how you respond to expectations (Gretchen Rubin's four tendencies) instead of fighting your own nature.
Micro-habits to get started
Small actions of a few minutes to start this habit:
Identify your tendency
Work out how you respond to expectations: upholder, questioner, obliger or rebel.
Obliger is the most common: meets others' expectations but not their own.
3 minDesign it to fit you
Adjust the method to your tendency: clear reasons if you question, accountability if you oblige, freedom and identity if you rebel.
There's no universal method; the problem was never your willpower, it was the approach.
3 minBuild your support structure
Set up the structure your tendency needs: an accountability partner, a public deadline or a convincing written why.
The obliger changes everything with external accountability.
5 min