Feeding the bond (5 to 1)
Relationships and Attraction · Beginner
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Feed the 'emotional savings account' of your relationships daily so they withstand the inevitable conflicts, following the Gottman method.
Micro-habits to get started
Small actions of a few minutes to start this habit:
Respond to bids for connection
When someone close shows you something or talks to you, turn toward them and genuinely engage instead of brushing it off.
These micro-moments build the bond more than the big occasions do.
1 minAcknowledge something you value
Say out loud one thing you appreciate about the other person: a gesture, a quality, something they did.
Feed the 5-to-1 ratio: far more warmth than criticism.
1 minRepair quickly after friction
After a moment of tension, build a bridge soon: a gesture, an apology or a bit of humor.
Repairing in time keeps a small conflict from becoming entrenched.
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