Antidote to comparison

Confidence and Shyness · Beginner

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Defuse the habit of comparing yourself to others and refocus your attention on your own progress.

Micro-habits to get started

Small actions of a few minutes to start this habit:

Spot and name the comparison

When you catch yourself comparing, say it in your head: 'I'm comparing myself again'.

That flash of awareness takes the force out of the automatic reaction.
1 min
Compare with yesterday's version of you

Replace comparison with others with a question: have I moved forward compared to a year ago?

The only fair and useful comparison is with yourself.
2 min
Scan for the good

Note one thing you do have or did achieve today.

The brain defaults to what's missing; it has to be trained to see what's there.
2 min