Pause before reacting

Emotional Intelligence · Intermediate

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Buy yourself a few seconds before answering, so you choose your reaction instead of suffering it.

Micro-habits to get started

Small actions of a few minutes to start this habit:

Take 3 breaths before replying

When a message or comment upsets you, take three deep breaths before answering.

Breathe out for longer than you breathe in to calm down faster.
1 min
Count to 5 when angry

When you notice anger rising, count to five before you act.

1 min
Ask yourself about the other person's why

When someone's reaction bothers you, imagine what need or fear might sit behind it.

2 min