Ethical influence
Social Skills · Advanced
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Develop persuasion and conviction skills that respect other people's autonomy.
Micro-habits to get started
Small actions of a few minutes to start this habit:
Give something first
Before asking a favor or influencing a decision, offer something of value with no strings attached.
Reciprocity is the most universal principle of influence: giving activates the urge to give back.
5 minPresent options instead of direct requests
Instead of asking for something directly, offer two alternatives where one is clearly better.
People become more cooperative when they feel they control the choice.
2 minSpeak from impact, not judgment
Express an observation or request by describing how it affects you, not by evaluating the other person.
Use: 'When X happens, I feel/need Y' instead of 'You always do X'.
2 min